Mistake.

Find me one person who hasn't and doesn't make mistakes and I'll show you ultimate perfection.
Everyone, in the world, EVERYONE makes mistakes. I really can't re-iterate that enough.
If you made the mistake, or someone else made the mistake.
REMEMBER, at the end of the day we're all human and we all make mistakes. All of us make mistakes. All of us. Everyone. Even those you might deem as 'perfect', yeh they make mistakes too.

Mistake - A wrong action attributable to bad judgment or ignorance or inattention.

A wrong action, pretty simple definition. Caused by your bad judgment, ignorance or inattention.

Your bad judgment, contributes to a lot of things usually mistakes. Bad judgment is a weird thing though. Your judgment can be affected by a fair few factors.
1. Emotions.
2. Drowsiness.
3. Alcohol.

Emotions, radical emotions are a bitch. They affect everything in your life for a short period. Your mood controls your day, your year, your life. Drowsiness, being tired changes your judgment and your motor skills strangely enough. Then there's alcohol, which takes the last 2 and totally and absolutely destroys them and makes a whole new version of bad judgment. I'm not saying don't drink. Go for it, you only live once. But remember how much it can affect your judgment and learn from your past mistakes. Learn from other peoples mistakes too, you don't have time to make them all yourself.

Then again you've got to look at the other side of things, a lot of the time someone is hurt or offended because of your mistake. If you're the one hurt, you need to remember as well that people make mistakes and think about how much you would want someone to forgive you if the situation were in opposite. You make mistakes, so do they, be forgiving.

If you are forgiven, don't beat yourself up about it. What good does it do? Shit all. If you are forgiven be happy, tread lightly, but don't punish yourself. It doesn't help, it makes stuff harder really. You need to forgive yourself.

So really a mistake is a wrong action attributable to bad judgment or ignorance or inattention. But because that's so freaking confusing.

Mistake - A wrong action caused by bad judgment usually affected by outside factors.

Stone.

As they say, "Nothing is set in stone"

But still there are some things that you really can't just drop and run away from. If 'nothing' was set in stone you could drop your entire life and everything in it and run away. Unfortunately as much as that seems like it would be an excellent solution to a lot of problems, it is impossible.

Imagine having the power to disappear completely. Never turn up to school, never show up to work, never come home, abandon your partner, desert your friends, disappear. That sounds terrible, but we've all thought about it. When stuff gets hard and things suck and people are shit you just want all your problems to disappear and you know that they won't so you think about disappearing yourself. You know you've done it, at least once.

Could you really do it though? Could you? Abandon everything your life and leave?
Tomorrow morning you wake up, go to the bank, take all the money you have, pack your bags of clothes, jump on a plane and leave. No notice, don't tell anyone, just.. leave. Leave forever? or come back? What would you tell people if you disappeared for 5 years and then just turned up out of the blue one day. What would you tell them?

"Well you know things were shit, so I left."

And really, would it be such a bad thing? Start a whole new life again. I'm sure everyone could imagine ditching their jobs quite easily but could you abandon your family and friends?

This blog is just a massive wild tangent really.

Stone. Back to things being set in stone. The saying is true, things aren't set in stone. You have the power to alter your own your own life and choose whichever path you want. Your life is in your hands really. Your choices pave the path that is 'your' life. Things are not set in stone however this does not mean you can ignore them, abandon them, destroy them.

Friendships are not set in stone, doesn't mean you can ignore them? Regardless we still do.
Relationships are not set in stone, doesn't mean you can abandon them? Regardless we still do.
Nothing is set in stone, but in the end it doesn't mean you can treat it like shit and abuse that statement.

So really, nothing is set in stone. Let's leave it at that. Nothing is set in stone, especially not your destiny. Your life is what you make of it, every decision, every chance, every risk, everything.

You, control your life.

Change.

One day I found a quote about change and everytime I think about change, I think of it.
"Without change we don't grow, and if we don't grow, well .... we aren't really living"

There is so many different definitions, so I chose my favourties.
1. To give a completely different form or appearance to; transform.
2. To lay aside, abandon, or leave for another; switch.
3. To cause to be different.
4. Something different.
5. The replacing of one thing for another.


Take the 5 and piece together the best definition? Well then,
"To abandon something, possibly for another, because of a want to be different; to transform"
I'd say that's a pretty solid sum-up of change.

Change as difficult as it can be, is always for the better. If you don't look at change as a good thing, then you live each day in fear. Change comes sometimes so rapidly and abruptly , you cannot prepare for it. You have to be ready for change and expect it at every turn.

Change hits you in a million different forms. Whether it's something irregular about your daily routine, a new outfit, an end or start in a relationship, the death of someone however close or distant, Whatever. Change hits you and it hits you hard. Sometimes it's easy to get over change, because it happens so slowly and sometimes you barley even notice. Change that hits you hard though, is tough. Especially the death of someone, it's hard to believe someone can be here one day and gone the next. At the end of that day, you've got to take a lesson from it.

You only live once, take every opportunity. Use it. Your life is, your life. Do with it what you wish.

Anyway, back to the topic of change. Changes in relationships are super hard. Most teenagers would call their friends over family any day. Losing a friend, sucks. It sucks majorly. If your friend is really a good friend they will talk to you, look after you and make sure you stay friends dammit. If people don't want to put in the time or energy to be your mate, then they're not worth your time. To find the real amazing, special people, you have to put up with the shit ones first. But in the end, it's worth it.

Same goes for relationship, relationships I guess. You've got to put up with shit ones first and a whole lot of shit before you really find the amazing ones. Or not? Maybe you get lucky and find the best one first. If you do, don't stuff it up. But at this age, you can't really tell who is the amazing ones. Take the chance though, you'll never know until you try it.

So, change..
It can go by unnoticed,
It can affect you,
It can affect your day,
It can affect your week,
It can throw your entire world upside down and stuff up everything.

But at the end of that day, whats done is done. So move one, make the best of it and live your life.

Smile Continued.

A smile is attractive.
I had a chat with a few of my mates the other day and we realized that the single most attractive thing about a girl, all else aside, is her smile. A smile is a sign of beauty, a sign of happiness.

Depressed people, angry people and sad people are no fun to be around. You pick the kind of mood people are in because of their facial expressions. If you look sad, angry or depressed people will intentionally try to avoid you. It's in our nature, if your in a good mood, you don't want to hang around with people who will kill your mood. That sucks! Buzzkill of the day.

If you see someone with a massive smile on their face, you instantly want to talk to that person, to be in their Ora. The person is a delight and all others radiate to them like a moth to light. They are a beacon of happiness and pleasantness. Their smile and their happiness makes them attractive to you. When people who are constantly sad and down are suddenly happy and smiling you realize just how cool that person really is and how much you like them.

If you had 6 girls lined up in front of you, 5 of them not smiling and 1 of them smiling like she'd just one the lotto, which one would you really want to talk to? At the end of the day, pretty girls have pretty smiles and that's why they are, you guessed it, pretty girls.

Remember to smile, it's attractive, we like it :)

Smile.

A smile, like so :)
Definied as a change one's facial expression by spreading the lips, often to signal pleasure.

A smile can be such a powerful thing. I guarantee you if you spend a whole day purposefully not smiling, you will have a shitter of a day. You smile as hard as you can, your day will be amazing, people will buy you presents, people will ask you to marry them, they will do you favors because you are just so damn happy.

Your smile is contagious. No matter what you look like, a smile spreads, like butter. HA.
But really your smile is amazing. You should smile. Why shouldn't you smile? You have no reason not to really.
Smile! Your alive!

Yes, sometimes things suck and you don't know what to think, you want to be angry, you want to be sad. But all those emotions aside, smile! Don't you hate it when your really mad or sad and you just want to be and someone you know really well says something and you just know you have to laugh? So frustrating when you break your anger/sadness wall, but after you feel great and the bad emotions pass. True mates know exactly what to say when your sad and you instantly laugh uncontrollably.

What does a smile mean to you? I asked people what a smile meant to them, these are their responses.
A smile makes you happy and fills you with warmth
A smile makes me happy.
A lot.
Happy.
Happiness, or if someone smiles at you it's a sign of acknowledgment or just that they are happy to see you.
Means happiness

I'd say they are better definitions than the original. A smile is happiness, theres no better was to put it. So brush up your pearly whites and get smiling :)

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Risk

Risk - It is a scary thing. Regardless of the size of the risk. What's it mean you ask?
Risk - hazard: a source of danger; a possibility of incurring loss or misfortune.
That makes is sound shit scary.
1. It's a hazard. That makes it sound like a nuclear hazard, well scary.
2. A source of danger. DANGGGEERRRR
3. A possibility of incurring loss or misfortune. I don't want to incur loss or misfortune.

So right about now, I think I've made risks sound a lot more scarier for you. That is not my intention at all, I promise you. Risk's are good. Risk taking makes life more interesting and a little less boring. In my last post I touched on going to china spontaneously. Risk? Yes. Payed off? No.
But that's why it's a risk. You win or you lose.

You throw the dice.
You flip a coin.
You try the pokies.

And does it always pay off? No. But when you take a risk and it pays off, you've never been more glad you did something. You are confronted by risks everyday. Small risks and big risks.
Small risk? Swearing at the teacher once their back is turned.
Big risk? Jumping out of a plane at 30, 000 ft.

At this point in my life I have only undertaken 1 of those risks and seeing as how i'm such an angel, it must be number 2 right? I kid, I kid.

Risk it or don't? There is too many different situations that are risky for me really to offer you an 80% solid answer. If your going to live and not have any major life impacting issues, go for it. If you will be greatly affected and never the same, steer clear yeh?

So, risk. Is it as scary as you think? That's the ultimate question to ask yourself.
Risk - hazard: a source of danger; a possibility of incurring loss or misfortune.
Wrong.
Risk - The opportunity to dive into something unknown or different with both good and bad possible as an outcome.
Correcto.

Opportunity.

Opportunity. It affects you every day. Every single day.

Opportunity - a possibility due to a favorable combination of circumstances.
Ahhh lot's of big words right? Pretty much what I take away from that is an Opportunity is something life throws at you and you do or you don't. There is no in between. You either seize the day and you make something of it or you let the opportunity pass you and continue to live your life unaffected.
"Carpe Diem" Seize the day. Buy the t-shirt. Get the bumper sticker.

When life gives you lemons, you make lemonade. Really? That's ingenious.
Or do you go by Forgetting Sarah Marshall,
"When life gives you lemons, just say "Fuck the lemons" and bail."

But really use what your given, to make the most of what you've got. When you get an opportunity offered your way, use it. Don't abandon it. Someone says to you,"Hey, I'm going on a road trip to China, keen?"
What do you say? You've been offered the opportunity of a lifetime. Do you turn it down? Do you continue your studies? Do you continue your apprenticeship? Do you continue your job?

Or maybe, you bail. You go to China. You have a terrible time, everything sucks. It takes you too long to get there, you have to sleep on the streets, you come home sad, angry and embarrassed. People don't understand you for going, people laugh at you, they think your a moron. But you had an experience unlike no other. An experience you will never forget. For now, yes, you may be pissed off and angry for going but if you can look back and laugh about the whole situation then wasn't it worth it? You traveled, you went somewhere, you DID something.

When you turn down an opportunity, you never know exactly what you could be missing out on. Transformers quote: "10 years from now don't you want to be able to say you had the guts to get in the car?" You turn down the slightest opportunity could have you missing out on a great adventure, a great story and in general a great time.

Ambition and Aspiration.

(First of all this blog is dedicated to Mr. Chad West. Absolute champ.)

Ambition I feel needs to be accompanied by Aspiration.
Ambition - a cherished desire
Aspiration - a will to succeed

If you have a cherished desire, then must have a will to succeed to make your desire a reality. Righto? So step to it soldier. Get your priorities right and get moving. If you really want something, like reeeally want it, then go get it. You have no restraints other than the ones you make for yourself.

Really, that's bullshit. People say that so you feel like you can do anything, when in reality there is a lot that cannot be achieved. For example,
I will never give birth.
I will never look like a badger.
and most important,
I will never, never get to own a real life Transformer. Despite all my wishes.

But, you should still always aspire to achieve greatness. Strive to greatness yeh? You can't always come first but hey whats wrong with 2nd? 3rd? Anything else?
There's nothing wrong with being last really. It's a place, you tried. You didn't come out on top but you gave it a go and that's the main thing right. What doesn't kill us only makes us stronger.
Correct?

I pose questions at you mainly because I have my thoughts and comments on the matters I blog on but ultimately it's your decision. I can only share my thoughts and you may or may not take something away from it. I would like to think you are perhaps a little wiser?
But really, what do I know, blind leading the blind really.

Anyway, little bit off topic. Ambition and Aspiration. What is your ambition? Think about it. Obviously you have more than one ambition, if you don't your a very boring person. What are your ambitions in life? Think of them. How have you worked to accomplish these ambitions? Have you at all? Have you even partially? I know, trust me I know sometimes you think of an ambition and you think,"Is it really worth it? Really?" Well your the judge, it's your ambition. Is it worth pursuing? Personally, regardless of your ambition, I think it is. If it is an ambition of yours then it's damn well worth pursuing.

What do you aspire to? Do you aspire to be a straight A student? Do you aspire to be a nurse? Do you aspire to anything? Think about it, if you don't aspire to be something then your a nobody. A pointless.

Every day you wake up think of something, ANYTHING that is worth getting up for. Then aspire to do it, to meet it, to talk to it, to ask it out. Whatever the hell is worth getting up for in the mornings is damn worth aspiring too and is a damn fine ambition. Get out of the crevasse you've been living in and go and live your freaking life.

Honestly, who knows what happens after death? So use the one chance you've got, don't waste it.
Do whatever YOU want to do.
Be who YOU want to be.
Talk to who YOU want to talk to.
Date who YOU want to date.
Be exceptional, be amazing, be intriguing, be fun, be creative, be crazy, be awesome, be the best, be the king and never..
..ever
..ever
..ever
lose your inner child.

Your inner child should control you in respective situations. Why grow up? Do the adult things but be a child at heart. Have fun! Have a laugh!
Four things you must remember to revive your inner child,
1. Cartoons will always be cool, no matter what everyone else says.
2. Making up imaginary games with your mates and looking like dickheads, is buckets of fun.
3. Ignore what everyone else thinks, jealousy is just humane.
4. The word 'Penis' is hilarious, in every situation. Regardless. It's hilarious.

This blog has gone slightly astray from it's original topic so let's rectify.
Ambition - a cherished desire
Aspiration - a will to succeed
Unfortunately, they're spot on. You cannot perfect those definitions, they are exceptional.
My final piece of 'advice' to you is to live your life the way you want to, not how any one else does and you are great,
you are amazing,
you are you.

And that's why I love you people :)

Control.

Not the one for the telly, you fat wench.

Control as in being in power of something.
The power you may or may not possess over someone or something. For example,
You do control your computer, you make it your bitch. Except when you mistreat it an it freaks out and kills itself. That's always fun.
Same with the microwave, you keep that shit in line.

Anywhoooo back to Control.
Definition - "The power to direct or determine"
All I see in that is Power, To, Direct. And I love it. Who doesn't love being in control? Everyone finds it hard to step back and let someone else take control of something. Unless of course they are completely useless and have no idea what they are doing, so they are quite happy for you to take over. But other than that, it's hard.

If you don't want to be in control of something a lot of the time someone else will take over. Situations suck when no-one wants to be in control and someone has to balls up and do it or else it doesn't get done. A personal example from my own life is the other day me and my mates killed a man because he looked at us funny, then no-one wanted to bury the body. Those situations totally suck.


Who is the most in-control person?
Balack Obama. (That's not a typo, I just think it's hilarious.Control's pretty much the world. Anything he decides to do, can and has the power to affect the entire world. Now that's awesome.

I do think though that one of the most annoying things of all time is when someone takes control over something you are trying to do/organize. And everyone is like yep cool they are organizing that, no worries. Then some bastard has to do it their way or else they don't want to do it and they want to be at stubborn as all hell. How do you deal with such people? Especially when other people decide then also that they too, now have a problem with your control. Clearly, you have become Hitler and should stop killing people to gain back your followers.

Sheep. Everyone says they hate people who are sheeps. But secretley everyone loves them, they fall like bowling pins.
Person A: Hey man! Your not doing anything tonight? No? Excelelnt, then let's go on a murderous rampage and kill people roaming the streets.
Sheep: Oh, ok alright. If that's what you want to do.
But really that is bad and you shouldn't exploite sheep like that.


You should exploite them like this :)
Person A: Let's go to McDonald's on the way home.
Sheep: But Person B doesn't want to? They want hungry's.
Person A: Come on sheep, you want Maccas. If we both say we do then Person B will have to!
Sheep: Ok, bah.
Person B: Let's get going to hungry's!
Sheep: We want to go to Macca's now.
Person B: Ok, fine.

But, be careful how you exploite sheep.
Don't sheer them too often.

Bah bitches.

Confusion

Confusion.

It is an emotion felt by everyone, at some point everyday. Whether it be over some complex wording or whether it be over another person's emotions. Quite often people refer to Confusion as the second meaning. Confusion over how another person feels about one's self.
Define Confusion? "A disorder resulting from a failure to behave predictably."
But who wants to behave predictably? Behaving predictably is one of the worst ideas ever. Spontaneity is the fruit of life. Mix things up, go crazy, do wild shit you crazy child you.
Re-Define Confusion? "Disturbed orientation in regard to time, place, person or thing"
Disturbed orientation, is possible one of the best 2 word collection I've ever heard.
"I'm sorry, have I confused you?"
"No, you've just completely disturbed my orientation. Thanks"

Relationship confusion.

Possible the most frustrating kind of confusion. Really, until you ask someone exactly what they think of you you never really can be 100% sure. Even then it's still not certain, people will often lie so they don't hurt your feelings. How does that make any sense?
A: Far out I hate B, oh shit here he comes.
B: Hi A!
A: Oh hey B. How's it going bud?
If you hate someone, grow a pair and say it straight up to them. Don't bullshit liking them enough so they stop annoying you.
A: Far out I hate B, oh shit here he comes.
B: Hi A!
A: B piss off.
B: With pleasure, every moment I talk to you it feels like someone is nailing into my ear drums. So long.
Then everyone's happy? No, not happy. Satisfied. Satisfied that they have no fake friends, all of their friends are true and loyal. They may not hate person A, but they don't have to hate. They can come to a mutual feeling of dislike. I share it with many people and in certain circumstances are able to work with these people still.

Love Confusion.

The most common kind of confusion I'd say. You might say differently, but hey.
Love Confusion is caused by 'mixed signals' from either party. One person may give off the vibe that they like the other person then from there are three different things that may happen...

1. The person is a slut. A massive massive slut. They will flirt with anyone and anything. This leads to the person being dissapointed and rejected because hey, they only know how to spell 'sex' not 'relationship'. Anything over three letters is confusing for them.

2. Massively Mixed Signals. While you may think the other person is indeed interested in you and you may think perhaps a relationship is forming, it is not unfortunately. The other person has not realised you felt that way and now that you have expressed it partially they no longer talk to you like they used to, or at all.

3. Love. When you most admirably express your feelings, they too express their feelings for you also. And then, well you know the rest. First comes loves, then comes marriage,then comes the baby in the golden carriage, right?

Confusion really only occurs in the first two, but in order to succeed and find a number three you must first endure a series of ones and two's and most likely a whole bunch of other shit. Agreed? Yes, good.



Confusion.

Re-define confusion?
When you don't know what else to feel, when you're lost, when you're unaware.

The Awkwardness of So.

So,
is a terrible word. Oly due to the fact people use it. "So" can be a window to a whole new world or conversational possibilities. Often people indulge in "So" when a conversation may have turned awkward or died all together. The conversation follows as such,
Person A: Aahh...mm... So?
Person B: So..

Person B has now trapped person A. If person A were to retort "So" then only then would they not be making conversation. Person B now has the right to get mad at person A for not thinking of something to say, when in reality person B should have thought of a conversational topic and thus started talking about it.

Why is it that each person is allowed to say "So" once but the second they say it more than once they have over stepped the boundaries of "So". I guess my advice is to use the power of "So" wisely. If caught in a conversation with someone who says "So" simply turn left, then sprint 100 yards, turn back to your Person A and yell,"SO WHAT DICK" then continue to run.