Moment.

In each single, individual moment there are choices to be made. In all of them, every one. Most moments pass us by as insignificant useless ones, which some of them are but some are more important that you can ever imagine.

People talk of 'defining moments' or moments which define who you are as a person or character. All moments, every second of your life is defining you. Every choice you make, from the second you take your first breath of air. You are defining who you are.

Growing up, we've all heard something along the lines of what we do defines what kind of adult we become. Whats that to say we don't change? We can't change? No. We change constantly. You are never the same person. I'd say each day you wake up you are a different variation of the same person. However small, you are varied in some way. So you don't grow into being one person. You grow into a varying person.

Back to moments however. The moments that you share with others are the most crucial. The ones with your mates in particular. You make the wrong decision with a mate, just one, you can stuff up things endlessly. There are times, being human, when all you need is a mate to just be there and just be a mate. True mates, know you need them and they'll stand by you and be there. You might consider your mates true mates but when it really comes time for them to pull through, they don't. That is one of the most frustrating things in the world.

Then you get the people who aren't really all that close to you, but they can tell that you need a friend and they'll be there for you. Despite the fact your not very close with them at all. They are the real people to keep in your life. In the moment, they see the problem and see what needs to be done and they do it. The best kind of people. The mate to everyone.

Having an argument with someone. Crucial, crucial moments. If you say the wrong thing, they'll burn you. If you slip it to far, you lose a mate. Arguments suck, especially over petty little things. At the end of the day, if it's over nothing you need to step up. You need to be the bigger man, sort things out and apologize. It it always hard to admit you made a mistake or you stuffed up, but to admit fault is to accept your humanity. You're human, you make mistakes. Accept it, apologize and move on. If you really want to be the one to win an argument be the one to apologize. You have shown you can be the bigger man and admit fault. You win, well done.


In that moment you have to decide is arguing this really worth it? Or should I just take this on the chin and get over it. Get over it, for sure. so much easier and it's only petty anyway. So really, harden up, admit your faults you are a human and move along with it. Don't lost mates because of silly things. You can never have too many mates, collect them like kinder suprises.